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Suicide
Jul 21, 2005 13:36:46 GMT -5
Post by Midnight Shadow on Jul 21, 2005 13:36:46 GMT -5
My friend, one of my best friends, is planning onkilling himself because his GF is leaveing him. i'm trying to talk him out of it and i think i'm failing. I don't know what else to do. i can't physically stop him because we're in different states.
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Suicide
Jul 21, 2005 18:15:10 GMT -5
Post by CASPER on Jul 21, 2005 18:15:10 GMT -5
It is a harsh burden JD I been on booth ends of this kind of conversation more times than I can count. Creative folk " Folks like those who are our circle of friends " We all tend to realize our passions with more depth than the sleep walkers who just drone about. We feel & see more of what the " Baskety ball / Reality TV drooler's miss. " We know higher highs & Lower lowes.. Just put your self in your friends place.. You can't change a would be suicides day with false visions of sweet Lilly fields & Pixy gliter.. Even the best meant Lies are but chocking dust & funeral wreaths.. * Be a friend & tell them the truth. * Share experiences you might hope they would understand Experiences rarely seem to hold little resemblance to " Happily ever after " Hope is day to day. Let me share a poem that got me through a dark day ? " shadowg.proboards36.com/index.cgi?board=Writers&action=display&thread=1112661876
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Suicide
Jul 21, 2005 21:13:47 GMT -5
Post by Dustar Forgash on Jul 21, 2005 21:13:47 GMT -5
I'm very famillier with this sort of thing, I have been on both sides of the arguement, and I know all too well the pain your friend feels, but tell him that there's more in life than just her, and he has what it takes to go on without her, and nobody knows the prizes time can bring. Make sure he knows how much pain it would bring to those around him if he were gone.
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Suicide
Jul 22, 2005 17:01:08 GMT -5
Post by CASPER on Jul 22, 2005 17:01:08 GMT -5
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Suicide
Jul 22, 2005 21:32:37 GMT -5
Post by Dustar Forgash on Jul 22, 2005 21:32:37 GMT -5
Thank you, I tried to remember the things I wish I heard while in the same basic predicament. Now lets hope the advice enough to make a differance.
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Suicide
Jul 23, 2005 9:08:46 GMT -5
Post by Midnight Shadow on Jul 23, 2005 9:08:46 GMT -5
I've been on both sides of the arguement too. More times than i can count, including last night. I don't want to give up on him, but i'm not strong enough anymore and its tearing me up know either way i'm losing one of my best friends. If he lives he won't be the same person, if he dies i feel i'll be losing someone who was like my brother.
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Suicide
Jul 23, 2005 15:56:05 GMT -5
Post by Dustar Forgash on Jul 23, 2005 15:56:05 GMT -5
When life is hitting rock bottom, always hope for the best. No matter how little can be done, and you think you've tried everything, you can always hope for the best, and more often than you'ld think, that's enough to sway the tide.
"Hope is a good thing, perhaps the greatest of things".
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Sabulana
Wandering Spirit
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Suicide
Jul 24, 2005 6:47:06 GMT -5
Post by Sabulana on Jul 24, 2005 6:47:06 GMT -5
Oh my... I'm probably gonna end up very "insensitive" during this so I apologise in advance. I just have no patience for people saying they're going to commit suicide or stuff like that.
I remember one instance where an online friend of a friend told her he was going to kill himself and she was so upset about it. I tried everything I could to cheer her up but it didn't work. I've never felt more helpless in my life...
Buty I realised something later. The guy was never going to commit suicide. He'd only told her so she could try to persuade him out of it. He didn't really want to do it but he told her he was so he would know someone cared about him even if they'd never met in real life. I could go on saying what a selfish bastard he was for doing that to my friend but I'm not gonna. I just wish I could have slapped him a few times for that. >_< But the guy's still alive anyway.
Now, Midnight Shadow, if I were in your position I'd probably tell him not to be so bloody stupid and if he feels his life can't get any worse then it can only get better. Just because his GF left him doesn't mean it's the end of the world. Human beings are socail creatures so if he can snap himself out of the depression then he can go meet someone else and get over it already.
...insensitvity over. *wanders off*
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Suicide
Jul 24, 2005 8:44:31 GMT -5
Post by Midnight Shadow on Jul 24, 2005 8:44:31 GMT -5
Thanks Stab. I already told him that.
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Suicide
Jul 27, 2005 19:54:54 GMT -5
Post by CASPER on Jul 27, 2005 19:54:54 GMT -5
Yep, some times tough love is the best medicine. Some times folks just cry wolf. I'm not say'n that is the case here. That would be unfair cause I don't yer friend JD Just know you have our support. we'll all ways be here to listen Hope it helps ?
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Suicide
Jul 28, 2005 8:19:27 GMT -5
Post by Midnight Shadow on Jul 28, 2005 8:19:27 GMT -5
I don't know he's missing.
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Suicide
Jul 29, 2005 18:35:23 GMT -5
Post by CASPER on Jul 29, 2005 18:35:23 GMT -5
I'm sorry JD Did you say this was a real life friend ? or Some one you just know on line ? Either way please, try not to worry to much until you hear some thing definite.
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Suicide
Jan 12, 2006 14:10:32 GMT -5
Post by BoBsiE on Jan 12, 2006 14:10:32 GMT -5
I went through a period of self-harm but I got over it so hopfully your friend can too
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Suicide
Jan 12, 2006 14:14:25 GMT -5
Post by CASPER on Jan 12, 2006 14:14:25 GMT -5
I hope so to This was all posted back in June & Midnight Shadow Is away at Basic training now I know she at least is do'n much better now
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Suicide
Jan 12, 2006 14:18:35 GMT -5
Post by BoBsiE on Jan 12, 2006 14:18:35 GMT -5
yeah
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